How Happy is Your Relationship?
Are you struggling with stress or worrying about the future?
Are you having difficulty sleeping and feel tired and exhausted during the day?
Are you overwhelmed with parenting your children or troubled by your own childhood memories?
Has a recent death of a family member, friend or pet left you feeling sad and depressed?
Has the love for your partner been overshadowed by anger and worries over your work?
So much has the potential to affect our relationship with our partner, and indeed our children.
Do You Want to Save Your Relationship?
If so, Act Now. Please call me on 9300 6026. I am both a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Family and Marital Therapist (21 years experience).
Do You Want to Find Closure on Your Relationship?
If you have already decided that your relationship is over and need help to ‘move on’ emotionally. i will help you find peace and your new path in life. Please call me on 9300 6026.
Unsure What to Do?
I can help you build confidence in yourself to asses your life, your needs, and to make the decision that is right for you.
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Separation and Divorce is a Painful Process. Divorce hurts and is a process which can last for many years. Divorce means “to sever; to separate” and can apply to both marital and de facto relationships.
Pre–Divorce – Already Emotionally Separated
Long before the decision to end the relationship is made, a couple may have already “emotionally separated”. Daily life may have become a round of endless bickering, long painful silences, or just routine existence.Feelings of loneliness, anger, despair or general unhappiness may have slowly drained the enjoyment out of life. Jealousy or guilt may also be difficult emotions to cope with. Stress, anxiety and depression are common.At this stage counselling may be helpful and the divorce avoided.
The Divorce – Relationship Legally Over
The signing of legal papers may end months of wrangling over division of property, monies, child custody and visitation rights, but new practical and emotional problems lie in wait as the family structure changes and insecurities mount.
Post Divorce – Life on your Own
This is it. Officially, it’s life on your own or with children to support. For some it’s a sense of relief, for others a time of torturous longing for the past. Sadly, some people experience a sense of failure and smart from feelings of rejection. With hurt pride and low self esteem they struggle to re-build their future.
Daily life has an abundance of practical problems to face, from child care to financial management and home maintenance. A partner’s time and skills are sorely missed. Grieving for the past can take its toll on general health. Good nutrition and self-care is essential.
Effects of Divorce On Children – Emotional & Behavioural Patterns – What to Watch For:
The age and personality of the child and how bitter or friendly their parents are handling the divorce may determine how they are affected. Whilst some children may develop skills of independence, adaptability and confidence, others may suffer some emotional and behavioural problems, e.g.
- Bed wetting
- Regression of normal development
- Disinterest in school work
- Social withdrawal
- Sleep problems
Teenagers may also find adjustment difficult and can experience intense fluctuating emotions from numbness to:
- Some may feel “let down” by their parents and may even blame one and side with the other. Concentration may decline, sleep problems may occur and rebellious behaviour surface or increase.
The Healing Process – Re-building the Future
For adults, dealing with an ex-partner can be an emotionally demanding exercise. Counselling can help with conflict resolution plus help people cope with their grief or address any personal issues of low self-esteem, confidence or fears for the future. Unresolved issues of guilt or jealousy can be worked through.For children, the love and patients of both parents helps them to accept and adjust to their new family structure. Encouraging a positive relationship with your ex-partner benefits their development (unless there is some special reason to avoid them, e.g. violence or sexual abuse). It is important that children do not feel that the divorce is their fault, and giving false hopes of reconciliation is not helpful. Be honest and help your child to grieve in his/her own way.Instill in them that only mum and dad have divorced, parent and child have not.
Co-parenting is a difficult area for many separating parents, so many relationship problems and difficulties that can cause such ongoing hurt, anger, bitterness and resentment. Co-parent Counselling can help to foster a workable ongoing parental relationship and help a couple to work through their emotions and ease the conflict between them. I will help you through the difficult times.